Looking Outside One's Self.

Part of growing up is learning to not be self centered.  It is an often forgotten part these days, but it is very important.

Any 12 step group will tell you that believing in a power outside yourself is helpful in your recovery.  In a time when people tend to drift more towards Atheism this can be a very difficult step.  However it is important to note that these programs do not in general endorse any particular religion.  Different group meetings may focus more on a particular Religion, but that is not the intent of the organization in general.  It is actually meant to encourage you to grow empathy, which can be damaged through addiction, and to begin to understand that there are things outside of your own control and things within your control so that you can begin to know the difference.

One way to look outside your self is through charity work.  Seeing someone less fortunate than yourself leads to feelings of gratitude for what you have.  It can also lead to having a greater self esteem because you have been helpful to another person.

That being said, it pays to do one's homework regarding the charity of choice.  There are a lot of them out there that seem to be just a way for some ass to make a lot of money for their own bank account.  So do a little googling, roll up your sleeves and put yourself out there.  You'll feed good about it later.  I promise.

Cooking is Sexy

In this day and age there are people who will tell you that knowing how to cook is not important, I am here to tell you that those people are wrong.  Horribly and frighteningly wrong.

Going out is easy and so are pre-packaged meals, but they are really bad for you.  One has to learn the value of taking the time and effort to prepare food.  In the beginning you may not like it, but you are worth pushing past that.

In addition to eating higher quality food knowing how to cook gives you a marketable skill.  Not just for the job market, but in acquiring partners as well.  Do not assume I am spouting some outdated sexist crap here, a guy or girl who can cook is sexy.  Not only does your mate not have to do this chore ALL the time, but having a useful skill gives you confidence.

Not to mention that cooking together is a fantastic bonding experience.  Date Night In Anyone?